Monday, June 13, 2011

Why We Should All Have a Sister Wife

When Wee 'Burb was a few months old, one of my closest friends came to live with us from Boston. Having had enough of living in her parents' basement and going from job to job, she moved into our basement for a little reprieve.

She is one of the few people I could ever live with, other than my husband. She's someone I can flat out say "I need my space" to and she would not take offense, and would thank me for letting her know.

Which is why over a year later, she's still here. It works for us, and while it's not permanent, we're in no rush to see her go.

Scott jokingly calls her the non-sexual sister wife. And in many ways, this is what she is.

In addition to being my friend, she is now Scott's friend, and one of Wee Burb's favorite people (Cous Cous, too). In fact, when I tell her no, she often goes running to our roommate for comfort. "She" being both Wee 'Burb AND Cous Cous in this scenario, sadly.

Frankly, I think the whole polygamy thing gets a bad rap. Having an extra person around to help with cleaning, diapering, and just overall amusing my kid is like a dream come true. I will be the first to admit I have a completely skewed version of motherhood as a result. Scott has a week-long work trip? That's cool, enter Sister Wife to help me with dinner while I give Wee 'Burb a bath. Scott's not excited about going to the zoo and a craft fair? Come on, Sister Wife, grab the keys!

Her mother has thanked me approximately 400 times for taking her daughter in and welcoming her. The truth? I want to thank HER every day because sometimes I think cheap rent and her own bathroom isn't nearly equal to all the help she provides.

Now naturally, the whole issue of sharing a man doesn't come into play here. Being firmly in the kindly brother/sister camp, there's no risk of hanky panky going on with the roommate and the husband. So I get the help without the uncomfortable sex scheduling thing.

I recently read an article on 10 reasons why Tina Fey would be a great sister wife.  What celebrity would you love to have as your sister wife?


Life As Wife said...

Not going to lie, I'm jealous of your sister wife.

It doesn't apply to you but come on, I might as well admit it, having someone to take over other wifely duties (if you know what I mean) would be nice too!

Sparkling said...

you are super lucky to have a sister wife. definitely! and what a neat thing for wee burb to live in the middle of! 3 adults running the house must be such a great help!

hmm my celebrity sister wife would be jennifer anniston. really.

Amanda @ It's Blogworthy said...

That's awesome! Man, I'd love to have someone to help out with cleaning....well, baby holding and diapering, too, but mostly the cleaning. and laundry. You're lucky to have someone you get along with so well to help you. As for a celeb? I have no clue....but a celeb bank account would be nice, too ;)

Mommy Lisa said...

I am totally jealous of this type of sister wife. I would like someone crafty like Rosie O'Donnell for mine.

Terri said...

I'm a bit jealous of the sister wife too! I'd love one! It would be wonderful to have that additional adult around for when the hubby was out of town.

I think I'd go with Jennifer Garner as my sister wife. She seems like just the type to pack up the kids and take them to the park!

Anonymous said...

You are living probably the best scenario ever! I'd love to have a Sister Wife that loved to clean and organize, but had no interest whatsoever in my Hubby. Because you are SO right that scheduling the sex thing would be weird. I think Alice from the Brady Bunch would be great.

The Woven Moments said...

A sister wife sounds pretty darn good right now!

Brooke said...

Hmmm. Jealous. She sounds like a good friend. And bonus for being able to help with the kids!

Frogs in my formula said...

An extra hand would be awesome. I'd like to have Martha Stewart as a sister wife, as long as she didn't talk too much (or at all). I'd love her to whip my house into shape.

Anonymous said...

There really is nothing like a good girlfriend. I think you are really lucky, and I think it says a lot about all of you that you are able to make it all work. If I had the extra space, I could think a few friends I'd love to have move in. :)

Really great post!

Rach (DonutsMama) said...

Wow, lucky you with all that help! Hmmm...I don't know who would be my sister wife. I need to ponder that a little more. Maybe Martha Stewart? She can do everything.